Stop Overthinking and Get Your Flow Back

Here is an example of how overthinking a situation can upset flow:

There were two people, a man and a woman, who appeared compatible to their friends and acquaintances at church. His wife had died. She was divorced. He had three children. She had no children, though she always wished she did, and she was beyond childbearing. They were both kind, generous, gentle souls who discovered they liked each other after friends set up a blind date. They shared things in common and enough differences to make life interesting. She was a few years older, yet they remained peers.

Your mind can deceive you.

Most of us go into our minds for answers because we have been taught that everything happens there, much to our disadvantage. A mind clear of negative self-talk and festering childhood emotional wounds can be your friend. If you live with runaway thoughts, your mind will mislead you and get you into trouble more often than not.

Here are some practices to engage your heart and plug into the flow:

  • Work to heal your childhood wounds. A qualified therapist (I recommend Rubenfeld Synergy Method) will help you see how old wounds keep you stuck in behaviors that no longer serve you and often hurt you. We all have wounds that can unconsciously affect our adult lives in detrimental ways. Life is better once you discover your happiness is an inside job. If finances are a concern, free counseling services are available.
  • Meditate. There are multitudes of meditation styles to explore. Choose one that suits your personality and needs: sitting meditation, guided meditation (a huge boon to overthinking minds because your mind automatically turns toward the voice you are listening to), walking meditation, Tratak (the practice of staring at a single object for extened periods, such as a candle, flower, body of water).
  • Breathwork. Most in modern society have stunted insufficient breath. When you focus on taking full breaths you calm your mind and body. A full inhale goes all the way down to your abdomen. With practice it is possible to feel as though your whole body is breathing. Pay attention to the rising and falling of your chest, diaphragm, and lower belly. Set aside at least 15 minutes a day to focus on your breath. Sit or lie down in a comfortable spot. If you are sitting, sit up straight with feet flat on the floor. For the first 5 minutes it helps to follow a rhythm: inhale for a count of 6, hold for 7, exhale for 6, hold for 7. Then relax and breath normally. This may feel unnatural for a while if you have been used to improper breathing for a long time. Later you may wish to increase the length of your breathwork sessions.
  • Traditional Hatha Yoga. Traditional yoga brings you into your body and calms your mind when done properly. The basic premise is ahimsa or non-violence toward your body, your mind, and others. You will quickly learn if you tend to push to hard, let your mind lead, or go beyond what is healthy for you. Once you learn to listen to what your body is trying to tell you, you will realize your body/mind/spirit is much more willing to relax, open, slow down, and cooperate than you ever thought possible. In yoga, less is more and comfort is key.
  • Shamanic Walking. Regular walking, whether fast-paced or a stroll, is good but there is a tendency to continue overthinking. Shamanic walking takes you out of your thoughts as follows: Bring attention to your breath for several moments. Listen to the rhythm of your breath. Observe the response of your body as you pick up your pace. Now, with eyes peering straight ahead, turn your attention to what is in your periphery. Keep your eyes looking ahead as you switch your intentional focus; What is to your right? What is to your left? What is above you? What is below you? If thoughts try to enter, return to the practice.
  • Journal. Write down a list of your concerns before doing any of the above practices. Writing things down is a physical technique that gets the worry our of your mind and onto a piece of paper, symbolic of not having to carry worry with you. Journaling also helps you see which things you can do something about and which things you cannot. When you journal with your non-dominant hand, chances are you will contact the feelings of your inner child and learn about what may be old feelings and concerns rather than current ones.
  • Stay in the present moment. Much of our lives are spent in the past or future. Stop for 5 or 10 minutes whenever you feel the monkeys begin to take over your mind. If you are at work, stop what you are doing and remain at your desk and/or excuse yourself to the bathroom. Ask your worrisome thoughts to take a break. You will be amazed how your mind listens to you when asked! Notice how your body feels. Is it achy, sore, or feel reasonably good? What emotions do you feel and where in your body do you feel them? Breathe. Bring your awareness to what is in front of you; focus on the color of your desk, a pencil, photos, a vase of flowers, the ceiling, the floor. Notice as much detail as possible. Breathe. What sounds do you hear? Breathe. Recognize that all you have is this moment.
  • Pray. Prayer does not have to be religious. We live in a universe of energetic connection to each other, to creatures, and the planet herself. Make your prayer a practice of gratitude and listening. When you are grateful for what you have, there is less time to have concerns about what you don’t have. Let your heart lead and ask only for the good of the whole.



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Robin Reichert

Robin Reichert


Author, Earth Divine - Adventures of an Everyday Mystic speaker/storyteller, peace alchemist, artist, award-winning story Transformed,